Obama partisans were
disappointed in his debate performance. As many commentators noted, he appeared
to be irritated from the get-go, as if he did not want to be at the debate at
all. Perhaps his somewhat off-key opening statement, addressed directly to
Michelle, “And so I just want to wish, sweetie, you happy anniversary and let
you know that a year from now we will not be celebrating it in front of 40
million,” reflected just this thought. "Why I am here debating Romney when
I could be celebrating my anniversary with Michelle?"
It was evident as well that
Obama lacked mental flexibility. When arguing for tax fairness, Obama claimed that
companies get tax breaks when they go overseas. Romney responded, "Look I
have been in business for 25 years. I have no idea what you're talking about. I
maybe need to get a new accountant." Had he been quick, Obama could have
referenced Romney's own creative accountants who helped him pay only 13% of his
income as tax. In other words he could have said something like, "Look who’s
talking. I should contact your accountant!" Of course, Obama has the innate speed of mind
to see and make this connection. But his irritability suppressed his
flexibility.
Perhaps only Obama and his
close advisers understand why he was irritable, and why he let this stance get
in the way of his performance. What is interesting here is the disjunction
between the work, thinking and time that went into Obama's preparation, surely every possible argument was anticipated,
and a source of failure, his mood, which could not be anticipated. It was a
reminder of the gap between our conscious purposes, in this case to win the
debate, and our emotional stance. The French philosopher Blaise Pascal's aphorism,
"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing," expresses just
this idea.
Performance coaches are of
course very familiar with this situation. When they coach an athlete who is
clutching, they know that the athlete's emotional stance toward his or her performance
is undermining it. For example, the athlete may have become a perfectionist,
may feel that failure, after so much success, is shameful, or that succeeding
may stimulate the envy of a mentor or peer. However, most coaches don't put
their clients "on the couch" to uncover such out-of-awareness feelings.
Instead, they help the athlete develop an attitude of overall disinterest in
consequences, for example, "what will happen if I fail," and focus
solely on the action itself, that is, the arc and follow through of a golf
swing, a pitch, or a jump shot. As a
result, the athlete learns to focus on the "here and now" of her
performance and to abandon the "there and then” of its results. In fact,
these are the conditions under which expert performers often achieve what the
psychologist, Mihlay Csikszentmihalyi, calls the state of "flow." This
may be one reason Romney demonstrated more resilience. He had nothing to
lose.
There are different
techniques for achieving such a stance, for example, by meditating or breathing
properly. There are also methods for helping any performer distance himself
emotionally from his own performance. For example, coaches who help financial
traders improve their game, encourage them to keep a diary of their decisions.
The trader becomes a student of his performance, thereby objectifying it.
This perspective on expert
performance helps us understand why people who may face considerable emotional
conflicts in their everyday lives may nonetheless become skilled performers
whether as surgeons, musicians or engineers. Their skill helps them develop a
persona that displaces, for the moment, the self that is in conflict with the
world. Indeed, it is a common experience that skilled performance helps such
people stay sane --it connects them to others in a zone free of emotional conflict--
and why they grow anxious when they are not working. Long ago, the famous
psychoanalyst, Sandor Ferenczi, noted that some of his patients suffered from
what he called "Sunday neurosis." They became symptomatic on their
days off.
The problem of course is that
neither Obama nor Romney is a professional debater. Neither one can commit
himself to the level of exercise and attention to debating that a
professional in another field achieves in honing her performance. This makes
them both more vulnerable to the vicissitudes of their emotional stance toward a debate. They lack the protection that repeated
skilled performances could give them. This is why the debates, despite all their
limitations, remain revealing.
The emotional stance a person
brings to a performance is often less about character, through sometimes it can
be, and more about how he is emotionally related to the situation he is in. In
this way of thinking we would not say that Obama was or is irritable, but
rather he was in a relationship of
irritation to his immediate situation. In the psychoanalytic way of
thinking, a person’s relatedness to a
situation sets the context for his decisions and actions within the situation. It is like the relationship between climate
and weather. The climate establishes the range of possible “weathers.” In this sense, in the absence of repeated performance, the stance trumps the skill. Thinking
psychoanalytically, we would say that Obama developed an image
of his relationship to the debate, as represented by his opponent, the press,
his supporters and the medium of television, which stimulated feelings of
irritation. For example, and this is just speculation, he may have experienced the out-of -awareness thought
that debating Romney was wasting his time.
The merit of such a framing
is that we don’t ask the performer, the client, the coachee, or even Obama, to
explore his character. Rather we ask him to try to tune into his out-of-awareness thoughts and feelings --the heart’s reasons—that are shaping his
immediate relationship to the situation he is about to face. His debating
proxies, or his policy experts cannot possibly help him do this. He has to rely
on his closest advisers, and they need the courage to risk “stirring him up”
just when he is trying settle in.
